E-harmony, Match, Chemistry, Ok Cupid, and some others that are probably too shady to mention are all very familiar dating sites. I’ve had an online dating profile since the summer of 2007! Coincidently that was also the summer of a very difficult break-up. Three years later, I am over the 5 year relationship that was more like the “never ending story” and I am also over online dating. All accounts have been terminated, resigned, closed for business! What liberation.
So I guess I started online dating as a result of not meeting anyone interesting and feeling pressured to be in a relationship, while balancing a full time job in a very busy city. Looking back I probably was just not confident enough and not ready to deal with the pressure of meeting someone spontaneously.
Here is what I think about online dating:
1- It’s an easier/ convenient way to meet someone.
2- …………………………..
Ok, now this is really what I think of online dating:
1- Its really over rated, while it’s a trendy way to meet someone, you are also taking a huge risk- a lot of these men/women are escaping from either a bad break up, want to find a season cuddle buddy, really are not sure of what they are looking for, could be desperate, just want someone to text message to avoid feeling lonely.
2- It’s easy to lie on your profile.
3- Is it really organic? So many people have access to this that it’s really the same pool of confusion.
4- It’s hard- going on interviews for about 3 years and not having met “Mr. Right” has been exhausting. Take breaks from it.
5- Online daters fail to realize that just like any relationship, nothing is guaranteed and it takes work to develop any true connection.
6- Tip: put all the energy and time you spend on online dating on yourself and you might have a bigger chance of meeting someone with genuine potential.
My suggestions after 3 years of doing this would be, have fun with it, be cautious because you really do not know ANYTHING about these individuals, enjoy free dinners or cocktails, but just because they are on a dating site does not mean that they are looking for a serious relationship. Do not share too much, take things slow, and when your time comes you will meet your other half via online dating or, through a family function, or on the subway or maybe you already know each other.
I’ve learned an important lesson- you can not rush life or love! Be confident, love yourself, have fun with your life- even with your single/alone life, smile and when the time is right you will meet Mr./ Ms. Right. I know that when my time if right, and I might have to date myself for the next 3 years, I will meet Mr. Right.
Was it fun? Yes
Was it what I needed? Yes
Will I do it again? Probably not, I am not in a rush
By Lunalove
So I guess I started online dating as a result of not meeting anyone interesting and feeling pressured to be in a relationship, while balancing a full time job in a very busy city. Looking back I probably was just not confident enough and not ready to deal with the pressure of meeting someone spontaneously.
Here is what I think about online dating:
1- It’s an easier/ convenient way to meet someone.
2- …………………………..
Ok, now this is really what I think of online dating:
1- Its really over rated, while it’s a trendy way to meet someone, you are also taking a huge risk- a lot of these men/women are escaping from either a bad break up, want to find a season cuddle buddy, really are not sure of what they are looking for, could be desperate, just want someone to text message to avoid feeling lonely.
2- It’s easy to lie on your profile.
3- Is it really organic? So many people have access to this that it’s really the same pool of confusion.
4- It’s hard- going on interviews for about 3 years and not having met “Mr. Right” has been exhausting. Take breaks from it.
5- Online daters fail to realize that just like any relationship, nothing is guaranteed and it takes work to develop any true connection.
6- Tip: put all the energy and time you spend on online dating on yourself and you might have a bigger chance of meeting someone with genuine potential.
My suggestions after 3 years of doing this would be, have fun with it, be cautious because you really do not know ANYTHING about these individuals, enjoy free dinners or cocktails, but just because they are on a dating site does not mean that they are looking for a serious relationship. Do not share too much, take things slow, and when your time comes you will meet your other half via online dating or, through a family function, or on the subway or maybe you already know each other.
I’ve learned an important lesson- you can not rush life or love! Be confident, love yourself, have fun with your life- even with your single/alone life, smile and when the time is right you will meet Mr./ Ms. Right. I know that when my time if right, and I might have to date myself for the next 3 years, I will meet Mr. Right.
Was it fun? Yes
Was it what I needed? Yes
Will I do it again? Probably not, I am not in a rush
By Lunalove
I'm not a fan of online dating. Possibly because I'm old fashioned...
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